On the app
Verified profiles
Anyone can take a quick selfie check, and a person on our team compares it with their photos. Verified profiles get a badge. It tells you someone is who their photos say; it can’t guarantee how they behave, so the tips below still matter.
Kind endings
Every new conversation ends with a private choice on day three: keep talking, or end kindly. Ending sends a short, friendly goodbye, and you can close any chat the same way at any time. Chats that go quiet close on their own after a few days, with a goodbye too.
Only a rough distance
We never show your exact location. Others see a rough distance, like “14 min away”.
Report and block
From any profile, chat or moment, tap ••• and choose Report or Block. Blocking is instant and silent: they can’t see you or contact you again, and we don’t tell them. Every report is read by a person, and we act on anything that breaks our rules, up to removing people from Lately for good.
Our rules
- Be yourself: real name, recent photos of you, 18 or older.
- Be kind: no harassment, hate or unwanted explicit messages or photos.
- Be honest: no scams, no asking for money, no selling.
- Keep it here: don’t push someone to move to another app before you’ve met.
Meeting in person
We nudge you to meet, because that’s where chemistry happens. A few simple habits make it safer:
- Meet somewhere public, like a café or a busy bar, and get there on your own.
- Tell a friend where you’re going and who you’re meeting.
- Keep your drink with you, and leave whenever you want to. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
- Never send money to someone you’re talking to, however good the reason sounds.
If something goes wrong
If you’re in danger, call 112. For non-urgent police matters in the Netherlands, call 0900-8844. You can also report someone to us in the app or mail [email protected], and we’ll help however we can, including sharing information with the police when the law allows.
If you’ve experienced sexual violence, the Centrum Seksueel Geweld is there for you, day and night, on 0800-0188 (free).